Today, Dr Kevin, Olivia and Mary Grace continue their discussion about the death of a relationship and the grieving process that follows. They answer a question from a listener about how well-intended friends can make matters worse by insisting that you take a a quick-fix, "forgive and forget" approach to forgiveness that is common in both Christian and New Age circles. Dr Kevin talks about the importance of finding help from a friend or spiritual counselor who is willing to "get into the hole with you" because they have been there themselves and know the way out. They discuss why we often repeat patterns through our relationships, and how we can break those patterns by examining them, completing our grieving process, and when no energy is left but a little sadness, arriving at the point of true forgiveness.